Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Begin to Look for a Job if You Are Employed
The purpose of all of these questions, if you are presently employed, is to make sure that you are committed to the emotional and psychological difficulties you will encounter in changing jobs. Next to death of a spouse, death of a parent, death of a child, coupled with divorce, looking for a job is the next most emotional thing that we do.
Many, many times people forget how difficult it is to look for a job, and this is especially true when they have one. They often decide on a whim or in a fit of emotional anger that they're going to leave the job they have and find a new one. They find out after months of looking for new job that it is a difficult thing to do. Changing jobs is a lot more difficult than they thought it was going to be.
This is especially true with individuals who all of a sudden want to leave their present job for a single reason. Maybe they are passed up for a raise or promotion or they don't get the amount of the raise they think they deserved. So, in a fit of emotional unease, they've decided to just change jobs. Three or four months later, they find out that it was a lot harder to do than they thought it would be, so they quit looking.
The point is to ask yourself these questions in order to be sure you are going to have the mental and emotional stamina it is going to take to change jobs. It is going to take a lot longer than you think. It is going to be harder to do. There's going to be a whole lot more rejection and refusal then you expect.
Sometimes, you have no choice but to have to change jobs. Just be sure that you are emotionally and mentally committed to the challenge it is going to be.
If you are being forced to look for a job while you have to keep the one you have, you will want to consider the following list of questions. They will help you deal with the emotional strain of having to change jobs. Here is a list of the key questions you should ask yourself before embarking on a job search:
What is the major reason that I need to change jobs?
How long ago could I have seen this coming?
How can I affect the issues that might force me to look for a job?
Is my need to look for a job caused by others or me?
If it is my choice, do I have a realistic idea about what the job market might bear?
Can the issues that are causing me to look for a job be resolved? How long would it take?
Realistically, how long will it take me to find a new job? (90 to 180 days if you are employed)
Am I willing to make and keep the intense effort it is going to take to find a new job?
How will I work interviewing around the job I have now?
Looking for a job is hard work. It always takes longer than most people expect, and it is normally a lot harder than they imagine. So, if after you look at these questions very hard, ask yourself if you really need to look for a job or if you should give the present situation a chance to resolve itself. You may not have a choice, but you need to be sure that your decision to change jobs is a knee-jerk reaction to some short-term situation that might get resolved.
Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before You Look for a Job if You Are Looking Full Time
These questions have to do with two things. The first is to help you check your emotional state so that your disappointment and frustration in losing a job don't interfere with your interviewing. Many people spend a lot of emotional effort in expressing the damage they experience in losing their job. The sooner you neutralize those feelings, the sooner you can move forward with a positive attitude.
The second thing that these questions will do is to get you in to the mode of looking full-time for a job. Looking for a job is a job in itself. If you approach looking for a job in a systematic, planned manner, the process will be easier.
Don't ignore your feelings or try to deny them. The purpose here is to delve into these issues so deeply that you understand your feelings and therefore become able to release them from being distracting to you and your emotions and your mind.
Questions Regarding Your Feelings
The questions below are designed to help uncover the feelings that might well prevent you from successfully interviewing. Take your time with these and answer each one fully. No one else is going to see your answers, so be as truthful as you can. Key questions to ask yourself about your feelings:
How were you frustrated in the last or present employment?
What were the disappointments you had with the job or company you left or are now experiencing in your present employment?
Did you lose or are you losing self-esteem? How?
Were you shocked at being laid off, fired, or forced to look for a new job?
Who is to blame for your having to look for new job? Describe the situation in detail.
Describe your disillusionment with the whole situation. How did it come about?
Describe the shame you have in needing to look for a new job. Describe what other people will think and say about you, about your having to find a new job, about your being fired or laid off, etc.
Do you feel isolated by having to look for a new job? Can others really understand?
Are you denying any of the things or situations that happened? Can you describe them clearly, even if emotionally?
Toward whom do you feel hostile, if anyone? Why do they deserve your hostility?
Complete this sentence: I am angry because.... Really go into a very in-depth explanation as to why you're angry. Be as angry as you want to be; write as long as you would like.
Do you feel guilty about what happened in losing your job or the reason that you have to look for a new one? Is there anything you could have done to prevent the situation?
Describe the depressed feelings you might have about the whole situation. Do you feel sad, empty, fatigued about it? How does "poor you" feel about this whole thing? How do you describe "poor you"? Describe in detail.
Describe, if it applies, how unfair the whole situation is. Describe it in detail. Write down all of the things that make you fearful about this whole situation. Be as detailed as you need to describe exactly what you are afraid of, even ridiculous fears.
After you have written down your answers to these questions in detail, read them at least three times, preferably out loud. As you read each one, ask yourself out loud, "Can I let this feeling go?" Then ask yourself out loud, "Do I want to let this feeling go?" You cannot be surprised if the answer to each one of these questions is no.
It is not uncommon to want to hold onto these feelings during the grieving period. You realize that you may never let all the emotions go or completely eliminate them from your emotional memory. The objective is not to eliminate them altogether but minimize their impact on you, so you can move forward toward a positive emotional state to interview well and attain a new job.